You are mama bear, and I hear your roar.
Leaving baby for the first time or to go back to work is so incredibly hard. You might feel like a crazy, overprotective lunatic riddled with separation anxiety.
Welcome to the club. That’s what happens when you become a mother.
I remember not wanting other people to HOLD my baby, so as you can imagine going back to work felt like someone was ripping my heart out.
Having a log like this was essential for me. Both of my children had milk protein sensitivities, so I needed to know what I ate, how they slept, when they pooped, etc. And I wanted to know what her day consisted of.
I also have a caretaker (love you, mother-in-law!) who believes that ice cream is a health food. It’s dairy, she says! This handy little paper, I like to believe, gives her a little more accountability.
No matter what, leaving is not going to be easy. But what is with new motherhood? My tips will make it a little more easy to bear.
Practice it gradually
If you are leaving baby for the first time, just go on a few short trips and work your way up to a longer absence. FYI: a 30 minute trip to the grocery store solo just might rejuvenate you as much as a day at the spa.
If you are returning to work, do not let that be the first time that you are away from baby. Or the second. Or the third.
With my first child, I think I had been away from her a whole 3 times before going back to work. And I was proud of that. But looking back, it was a mistake. It made it more difficult for both of us.
Do a trial run
Have baby stay with your caretaker before the big day. Stay with your baby and caretaker for a while so that your baby gets used to the person with you (her comfort) there.
Let your caretaker know what baby’s typical schedule is and what you EXPECT from the caretaker.
Be informed and ask questions
It’s so important to know what happened with baby that day so that you can feel connected. How much milk did baby drink? How were naps? Get my free printable that makes it simple for your baby’s caretaker to write down the specifics of the day.
Trust your caretaker
Choose a caretaker that you feel extremely confident in. There are so many times that I’ve heard about moms who feel uncomfortable with their caretakers in some way.
You have options! You should love the person who will be spending the day with your baby. That person should listen to your wishes and should be honest and open with you.
Don’t be afraid to check-in during your lunch break. Hearing a reassuring report will help you to relax and make it through the rest of your day.
Prepare now if baby is breastfed
Unfortunately, leaving a breastfed baby can be a little bit more challenging. Get your baby used to drinking from a bottle, but also know that some babies will simply wait for you to return. Know that this is normal, and that baby will make up for it. In the middle of the night. Yay.
Regardless, you are a busy mom and you need the right tools to make pumping quick and (sort of) painless. You can my 5 pumping must-haves and read all of my tips for returning to work and breastfeeding.
Remember that some time away is good for your well-being
Becoming a mom doesn’t mean that that role defines you. Don’t feel bad about taking care of YOU.
How does the thought of leaving your baby make you feel?
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